Have you ever been for a Personal Effectiveness or Personality Development Training before? If you go to any good institute, you will realize that a large portion of developing your personality actually boils down to how you handle your emotions, in other words, Emotional Intelligence Training.
For all those of you who keep reading our posts, you will realize that this is one of our favourite topics. Why, because we ourselves have been and are continuously going through the grind of training our own emotions. Yes I used the word training, which goes to say that emotions are not something that we need to suppress or fall prey to. We can actually tune them to ensure that we can make the best use of them and that is exactly what we teach you to do in our Emotional Intelligence Training.
So what are emotions?
Energy in motion, yes, or you can simply take them as your minds way of communicating with you in a language other than words. So it’s like our minds have two ways of communicating with us really. One is through words which go down well with the intellectuals whilst the other is emotions, which go well with, well the emotional guys. Logical wasn’t that! So although we have both forms of communication running through all of us, we understand one of the forms a little better. So while some of us have the capability to develop a great IQ, that’s the intellectual guys, the rest of us can have the best EQ. So there’s really something for all of us to look forward toJ
So I fall into the emotional category as most of you would be knowing and like most of you, have always been asked to suppress the emotional bag that I carry around as nobody wants to see a cry baby! Sounds familiar? Am sure it does. However I now realize that suppression is most definitely not the way to go about it and the emotions we push under the carpet don’t get lost in oblivion but actually come out at rather distressing times and with double the force when you really don’t need them. That sounds familiar too, am pretty sure it does!
So what’s the way out, or should I ask is there any way out? Yes all my emotional friends there is and if you can master that way, your emotions will soon turn into your friend rather than an embarrassing foe! They will in fact tell you things about yourself that are stored deep into your subconscious that you would probably never have decoded through logical thinking. That in turn will give you the power to change, to change even all those things that you struggled at changing about yourself and were just not able to.
I sound like I’ve just come out from a fairytale, haven’t I! So let me make it sound a little more real by giving you an example.
So this was yesterday’s scene. I woke up in the morning and started thinking about all the things I had to do that day. I had a Doctor’s appointment in the afternoon and before that I had to check on my Boss’ cat as he was away on holiday on the cat was not used to being alone. I calculated that overall that was going to take up around 4 hours of my time. On top of that we were going to start some carpentry and painting work in my house, I was overhauling our entire Knowledge Management system and I also had to get our database in place before the end of the month before our software expired. So I had a lot to do and as usual the more I thought about it the more I landed up getting stressed about how I would manage everything. I could just see myself going ballistic and getting frantic.
So what did I do to keep my emotions in place? Nothing. I just got in touch with them. No I havn’t completely lost my mind as you would think I have! That is the trick I’m talking about. You just have to stop what you are doing and allow yourself to feel your emotions rather than running away from them. So I ensured I did not carry my laptop to my Boss’ place. I could have easily sat there and completed some work but I realized that would have been escapism in that moment. So I went there and just sat with the stress I was feeling. I allowed myself to completely immerse in it, although frankly it felt horrible. Guess what, I came out of the stress pretty soon. I was up and about all ready to get back to completing the tasks I had. How, just by paying attention to my emotions and hearing what they had to say. The emotions told me how taking stress had become a habit and how I tend to fall into the stress cycle as soon as the number of tasks I have to complete increase. They also made me realize that I had no external pressure in this case but was unnecessarily putting pressure on myself, something which I have always done and something that was directly coming from my subconscious. This awareness actually gave me the power to recognize what was happening in me, stop and pay attention to it and then move on with renewed energy without suppressing the emotion. What was the result, I was relaxed and could do the assigned tasks without having my emotions running up and down. Now isn’t that great?
Want to learn how to do that? Come join our Personality Development Training and Emotional Intelligence Training sessions and we will show you how.
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